#291: If Customers Annoy You, You Are Missing The Point
With this episode, I'm prepared to ruffle some feathers. I hope you have thick skin, but this conversation is absolutely necessary, and I am incredibly passionate about it.
Lately, everywhere I look on social media, I see small business owners posting Reels, TikToks, and memes making fun of how frustrating, exhausting, or annoying their customers are. They complain about customers asking too many questions, taking up too much time, or interrupting their day.
This completely blows my mind. On one hand, I hear entrepreneurs constantly talking about how slow sales are and how desperately they need customers. But on the other hand, they are publicly mocking the very people keeping their doors open. We cannot say we want growth while simultaneously acting irritated that customers even exist.
Even if you aren't posting this online, I want you to look deeper: How do you talk about your customers behind the scenes with your team? How do you think about them when you get home at night?
I’m not throwing blame without looking in the mirror. When I ran my retail store, I had days where I got frustrated and, to my regret, complained to my team. But we have to change our mindset. Customers are not an inconvenience to your business; they are your business. Without them, you don't have a business—you just have inventory and bills.
Key Takeaways from the Episode
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Your Customers are Watching Your Social Media: That "relatable" video mocking customer behavior might get laughs and likes from other business owners, but your actual customers are seeing it, too. When they see that content, they hear: You are a burden, and we don't want to help you. Why would anyone spend money where they feel unwanted?
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You Don't Sell a Unicorn Product: Whether you sell shoes, jewelry, candles, or clothing, customers can buy it somewhere else—Target, Amazon, or the boutique down the street. They choose your business because they want connection, experience, and service.
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Customer Service is the Business: Answering questions, helping people make decisions, and building trust isn't an interruption to your task list. It is the task.
5 Ways to Train Your Team to Appreciate Customers
If we want better customer relationships, it has to start internally with our leadership and trickle down to our teams. Here are five practical ways to recalibrate your internal culture:
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Remember Who Writes the Paycheck: I don't write my team's paychecks; the customers do. Employees need to understand the direct connection between the customer experience and business survival.
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Stop Celebrating Sarcasm and Complaining: If leadership complains about customers behind the scenes, employees absorb that rotten mindset. Instead, actively celebrate positive customer stories and wins.
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Train Emotional Intelligence, Not Just Sales Skills: Teach your team how to actively listen, remain patient, read a customer's energy, and make people feel seen.
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View Questions as Buying Signals: Do not get annoyed when a customer asks a million questions. Questions mean interest and curiosity. An inquisitive customer is a massive opportunity, and they are far more valuable than a silent customer who walks right out.
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Build a Culture of Hospitality over Customer Service: Customer service asks, "How do we complete this transaction?" Hospitality asks, "How do I make this person feel?"
Final Thoughts
Setting healthy boundaries, having closing times, and protecting your peace is perfectly okay. You don't have to answer DMs 24/7 or let people mistreat you. But we must communicate our boundaries with kindness.
People will remember how your business made them feel far longer than they will remember what they bought. The businesses that win long-term aren't always the cheapest or the trendiest; they are the ones that make their customers feel deeply valued.
How are you going to shift your mindset around your customers this week?
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